tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post4753630123722395599..comments2023-07-11T09:04:04.297-07:00Comments on To Each Her Own: ExhaleM.G.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06970630999337971029noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-4452573440636052002009-04-27T09:07:00.000-07:002009-04-27T09:07:00.000-07:00Your post brought tears to my eyes. I am impresse...Your post brought tears to my eyes. I am impressed by how brave you both are and sad that you have to be. I wish you the very best in your life together and can't wait to follow the rest of wedding planning on your blog!Bumpy Bellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04229456115818198176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-28641105852611906552009-04-25T08:26:00.000-07:002009-04-25T08:26:00.000-07:00Congratulations on getting this done, and I'm just...Congratulations on getting this done, and I'm just sorry that it has to be so hard. Stuff like this kills me--you are engaged to be married, in what should be a really happy, joyful time in your life, and I wish it just could be easy and free of fear. <br /><br />I also think life is full of tenuous relationships, of finding little spaces where we can communicate with people who speak a different language from us. I have had hard times with my parents over issues nowhere near as difficult as this, but part of the process is accepting that we will never have an uncomplicated relationship, it will never be "ok", but we can hope to get to a place where we can coexist.<br /><br />Best wishes to you both.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-54783463386432515202009-04-25T07:15:00.000-07:002009-04-25T07:15:00.000-07:00congrats on coming out! It will make your lives s...congrats on coming out! It will make your lives so much easier--I have a friend who has been closeted through an 8 year relationship, buying a house, and breaking up. She gets no support, and can't even act upset or they'll catch on. It might be a struggle, but it sounds like your fiancee's parents love her, so hopefully it's the beginning of a long march to acceptance (hopefully!). <br />I'm glad you have this blog--my girlfriend and I are also planning a wedding in a part of the country (south west Florida) not known for its gay wedding industry. So far people are surprised when we say we're both brides (after an hour of picking out a caterer the woman nods to Steph and says, 'so, are you two friends?' 'um, we're both getting married. to each other.' pause. 'oh, so you ARE friends!' yeah. really good friends.) but after the shock wears off they've all been really gracious. It's just hard to find other people in the same boat for some reason.prettyisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10571929003051871325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-78114274029114293732009-04-25T06:14:00.000-07:002009-04-25T06:14:00.000-07:00I can't imagine how hard that must be. I'm straigh...I can't imagine how hard that must be. I'm straight, and I wish that people would stop going on about "gay-friendly" and "okay to be gay", because you and I know that it's hard to be gay. Obviously it's easier in some places than others, but if my friends can't hold hands as they walk down the street without attracting comments or rude stares, then, I'm sorry, it's not making it "okay to be gay". It's making it hard to live with who you are.<br /><br />I'm juuust starting out as a wedding photographer. The lead photog I have been 2nd-shooter for called me up the other day and said she had a request for a gay wedding, and did I want to 2nd shoot if they booked her? I was like, "Hell yeah! I'll shoot anything different, what fun!" and she said she has three regular 2nd shooters who have refused this sort of thing in the past. Apparently the couple have been struggling to find service providers who will help them out, from venues to officiants to photographers, so I'm glad they found my photog friend. Unfortunately she had to ask them if it was ok that she didn't put them on her blog, because that would scare off many clients, which she can't afford, however close-minded she thinks they are. The bride quite agreed - I feel so bad for her, though.<br /><br />I hope you guys are managing to find helpful service providers without an issue!Read and Seehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775194306528039139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-62788172797261277072009-04-24T12:37:00.000-07:002009-04-24T12:37:00.000-07:00Congratulations to the two of you on being courage...Congratulations to the two of you on being courageous enough to get this done!<br /><br />My parents sound ridiculously similar to D's, and while the coming out process was pretty terrible, our relationship is much better (but not perfect) now. The most useful thing for me has been to know how much I can accept their comments and knowing where to draw lines. I can handle a few passive-aggressive comments at dinner, but I won't tolerate them being disrespectful to my partner, and I just don't expect them to treat us like my sister and her husband. In a perfect world, I wouldn't want to make those compromises, but, in the real world, they've been helpful for me. I'm sure the lines are different for everyone, but I'm sure you'll figure it out together.<br /><br />AND, most importantly, congratulations on your engagement and lives together!Over the Rainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08406422256952106236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-41839465656236450612009-04-24T12:33:00.000-07:002009-04-24T12:33:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Over the Rainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08406422256952106236noreply@blogger.com