tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post4948540961261795465..comments2023-07-11T09:04:04.297-07:00Comments on To Each Her Own: ShowtimeM.G.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06970630999337971029noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-19791076058846007922009-03-26T15:24:00.000-07:002009-03-26T15:24:00.000-07:00I actually think you have every right to be upset ...I actually think you have every right to be upset about being discriminated against. I know I would be. I say those are vendors you don't want to do business with anyways. Hopefully one day soon, you won't even have to worry about people caring whether you marry a man or a woman. So I say, keep holding your head up high, and don't let other people's hate get to you. Well, try not to.Maria's yogahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13029405069047968579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-91651609846341179992009-03-16T11:48:00.000-07:002009-03-16T11:48:00.000-07:00I hear you, girl. My fiance and I (both women) jus...I hear you, girl. My fiance and I (both women) just got turned down yesterday by a photographer who didn't want to shoot anything he "couldn't use for his portfolio." I tactfully (even though he was less than) pointed out that we were in Seattle, a very progressive place, and he might want to consider opening up his PAYING clientele to "non-traditional" couples - of which there is a sizable market here. I did not hear back. our first roadblock, and I'm trying to thicken my skin, but sometimes I actually forget about how unaccustomed people are to this. I'm not unrealistic, but to us it's just love, and so few people - straight or otherwise - are lucky enough to really find that. I used to advise the GSA group at the HS I worked at, and that small action made a big difference for me in dealing with the ignorance and intolerance in the world.<BR/>NikkiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-71262871336506430992009-03-12T11:54:00.000-07:002009-03-12T11:54:00.000-07:00Of course you care! Standing up to the man is exha...Of course you care! Standing up to the man is exhausting and it's unfair that you have to do it. <BR/>But I really believe, in my heart of hearts, that if people keep standing up everyone will eventually see that letting people love whoever they love will not make the world collapse. So you're making things easier for everyone who comes after you. <BR/>Not that it makes it any less exhausting.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10211797571405802312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-10634643251712318992009-03-12T11:39:00.000-07:002009-03-12T11:39:00.000-07:00Theres no need to feel like you "shouldn't" be ang...Theres no need to feel like you "shouldn't" be angry and upset about being continually slighted. Those of us built to walk off the beaten path may need to develop thick skins, but human beings have built-in reasons to care what others think. It warns us of danger. Sometimes it guides us well. We are social creatures. People are already trying to take enough human rights from you- dont hand them your right to outrage as well.The Black Hat Collectivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18158492409598444709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-58200708799577877412009-03-12T10:26:00.000-07:002009-03-12T10:26:00.000-07:00Those vendors need a smack upside the head! ESPECI...Those vendors need a smack upside the head! ESPECIALLY in a small town they need all the business they can get!! I thought it was bad when I was at a bridal show and a couple of guys were trying to find a photographer for their wedding and when asked the photographer pulled out another binder of pictures that he had HIDDEN under the table that was of all the gay weddings he had done. I thought that was terrible but at least he was kind and friendly and seemed to have no twitching/staring/awkward pauses when talking to the couple. Business is business and who's marrying who is not their personal concern! yeesh. .... stepping off the soap box now.*Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17572133516556386284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5070542011830353854.post-80584562824193109472009-03-12T06:38:00.000-07:002009-03-12T06:38:00.000-07:00Thank goodness I found your blog! A breath of fres...Thank goodness I found your blog! A breath of fresh freaking air in all this close-minded wedding nonsense! My transgender groom and I are planning a wedding for next spring. A few years ago I began the planning process with my ex-fiance and faced so many of the same things -- vendors handing us information about double weddings and informing us that they couldn't do it because it wouldn't be legal -- it was beyond infuriating. Good luck with your planning! I look forward to reading more!lovejusticehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04546708864820606590noreply@blogger.com