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Our city's annual bridal show extravaganza is coming up and I have some mixed feelings about it. One one hand, it is such a great place to go and find new vendors and taste cakes and really nail down some stuff for the wedding, and cross my fingers, find some gay-friendly folks in our neck of the wood.

However, I can't decide if I want to deal with the "No, it isn't a double wedding-- we are marrying each other." It gets old and it gets depressing. What with the looks and the awkward pauses and such-- it just gets tiring. I find it easier to email vendors and ask them how open they are to a gay wedding, because if I receive something offensive back-- I can just delete it.

I know somehow, in some little way, by going ahead with a marriage that isn't even legal in our state, we are standing up to 'The Man' (ha!) but you know what i mean... I know I shouldn't care, but the more I think about it-- I do care! I care about the judgements, the sideways glances, the whispers-- not because of me, but because of all the gay couples before and after us that are going to have to endure the same thing. And the more I think about it, the madder and sadder I get.

Seriously?! These roles need to be reversed. These vendors need to not care what kind of wedding they are working for-- gay, straight, transgendered, interracial-- not those of us that are celebrating their love and devotion to one another.

We just started a GSA here at my school and we are working on buttons to help promote the club. One of my students made a great one of three silhouettes dancing-- two men, two women and a man and a woman... the wording below it said "Music is Music, No Matter the Tune".

Now-- if I could only tell that to one of the bands I'd like to book.